Disturbing quotes from her written materials were gathered here:

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For example, Forbes writes (from “DSM-IV-R in Action”):

*** “If one were to watch a therapeutic hold for the first time, without an understanding behind the technique, he or she might perceive it to be abusive or coercive.”

*** “There are several different types of holding therapy being practices in attachment therapy and all are limited in published and proven effectiveness. However, most practitioners in the attachment field would argue that it is the only therapy that offers hope for true change.”

*** “At the beginning, the child has a short period of feeling good in the mother’s arms. Then the child begins to want out of the hold and becomes angry and attempts to get free. The child then works through this conflictual stage with the mother, usually with a full range of emotions from yelling to crying to attempts at biting or hitting.”

Forbes’ co-author B. Bryan Post, is an even more infamous proponent of Attachment Therapy:

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Forbes is currently working with another Attachment Therapist, Ronald S. Federici. For enforcing routine discipline, Federici recommends a highly dangerous prone restraint, one that has been responsible for suffocating children.

Both Forbes claims Martha Welch, author of “Holding Time,” treated her children and provided Welch with a testimony:

“The Welch Center Intensive Family Treatment was the only viable and effective solution to the problems we were experiencing in our family. In fact, today, it is not only a solution, but also an integral part of our lives.”

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Rating: 1 / 5

I know they did the best they could. But if they’d had these tools (what the Beyond Consequences Institute teaches) I know there would have been a lot less darkness, heartache and loss in our lives.

I have attended four of Heather’s in person events this year:

1. “Beyond Consequences Live” – free with a copy of any of her 3 books in November

2. “Every Day is Mothers Day” – A healing conference just for moms – twice; once in May & once in October

3. “Intensive 2 Day Training” – for parents and professionals, in July

I have also attended her 11 week live online course 3 times, and every time I hear her speak I learn something new or change some limiting belief or gain some new understanding. All I can say is, this woman is the most inspiring, intelligent, motivating parent I know and that anyone, be they parent or professional, dealing with children who have difficult behaviors for any reason (medical trauma, emotional trauma, etc) should do themselves a favor and get this book. It unlocks the door in your mind to seeing things in a new way. It gives you the ability to create opportunities for you and your family to heal. It gives you the capability to love yourself and each other unconditionally.

In fact, after almost 15 years of no contact with my younger brother (who, after their divorce, was given over by my parents into the foster care system and bounced around from home to home until he was shipped off to a group home thousands of miles away) I have been able to have a healing conversation with him and love and accept him as my brother again. That first conversation just a few weeks ago that I had on the phone with him, at 32 years old, would have been impossible for me if I had not immersed myself in Heather’s work.

I have more love in my life, for myself, my family and my fellow humans than I ever thought I would be capable of, as a child of trauma myself, having been diagnosed as bipolar and depressed in the past. When I became a mom, and especially when my daughter hit the “terrible twos” I became a monster in moments of stress.

The information in this book (and Heather’s other books) radically altered the course of my life. As another reviewer eloquently said – “miracles!”

I thank God every day for Heather’s work. She truly is working miracles in people’s lives, changing the lives of more people in the world than she will ever know. Now my whole family is dedicated to helping others to get and use this information to help change their lives for the better too.

Just Google “Dare To Love Tour” to see what I mean. That is how strongly I feel about this information.

Dare To Love!

Andrea =)
Rating: 5 / 5

Based on the ratings this book has received, I am sure the book is useful for other parents, but it was singularly unhelpful for me and should not be marketed to parents of adoptees whose first language is something other than English.
Rating: 1 / 5